20 Questions for Your Spouse

Either on a date or during a private conservation, try using the question below to learn more about the heart of your spouse.  Allow the topics to raise additional questions that you may want to explore, but keep the mood and focus positive.  Listen more than you talk.

Personal

Question 1: What is your greatest hope or dream?

Question 2: What do you enjoy the most about your life right now?

Question 3: What do you enjoy the least about your life right now?

Question 4: What would your dream job be if you could do anything and get paid for it?

Question 5: What are some things you've always wanted to do but havent had the opportunity yet?

Question 6: What 3 things would you like to do before the next year passes?




Question 7: Who do you feel the most safe being with? Why?

Question 8: If you could have lunch with anyone in the world, who would it be and why?

Question 9: When was the last time you felt filled with joy?

Question 10: If you had to give away a million dollars, who would you give it to?

Marital

Question 11: What are 3 things that I do that you really like?




Question 12: What are 3 things that I do that drive you crazy?

Question 13: What have I done in the past that made you feel loved?

Question 14: What have I done that made you feel unappreciated? Question 15: What are 3 things that I can work on?

Question 16: Of the following things, what would make you feel most loved -- Having your body massaged and caressed for an hour? Sitting and talking for an hour about your favorite subject?  Having help around the house for an afternoon? Receiving a very nice gift? Hearing encouragement about how appreciated you are?

Question 17: What things in the past do you wish could be erased from every happening?

Question 18: What is the next major decision that you think God would want us to make as a couple?

Question 19: What would you like your life to look like in 5 years from now?

Question 20: What words would you like to hear from me more often?

When asking these questions: offer encouragement and a listening ear. Refuse to allow this to become an argument or time for you to criticize.  Let this be a time for your to express themselves.