"You cannot have an irresponsible man if he was not allowed to be an irresponsible boy. Some women raise their daughters and love their sons. They require little of their sons in the areas of household duties: taking care of siblings, going to church, or doing well in school, while their daughters are expected to excel in these areas. These mothers are creating totally dependent men who will expect all women to do for them. Yet these boys are future husbands and fathers."
--Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu
I was raised.
My younger brother who is 16 yrs old was loved.
My baby sister who is 11 is being raised.
So sad that my little brother doesn't know how to do anything but surf the net and and play video games.
He has never had a job
He doesn't do chores and to get him to clean is a civil war in the house.
He is about to graduate High School with mediocre grades and I graduated 6th in my class of over 400.
He is irresponsible with a capital I and my father and step mother condone this behavior.
It is soo sad that this is the man someone will have to marry one day.
Why would my step mother raise her son to be a man that she would never want to marry.
Why isn't she preparing him to be an independent man?
But don't let Princess say anything to him.
I'm not his mother he says.
I'm your older sister and I WILL help raise your lazy behind.
I MAKE HIM DO THINGS AND HE CRIES.
I'll scream and yell if I have to, but there's no way you will put your dirty dishes in the sink and not wash it--GET YOUR LAZY ASS UP AND CLEAN!
I make him pick his clothes up off the bathroom floor after he has showered.
I make him throw away all his candy wrappers after he has eaten.
He is so dependent on my parents that I fear he will be one of them brothers that are dependent on women.
I want him to be a real man.
I know when I have children I must instill the essential values in each gender.
This post was inspired by a conversation I had with Sister Chele a while back.